Do your habits match your hopes?

Hey, friend hey!

Alright, let’s cut to the chase: you can’t Netflix your way to greatness. I know, I know, it sounds brutal, but it’s true. If your daily habits look like snoozing your alarm, scrolling social media, and binge-watching the latest series (we’ve all been there), then we’ve got to have a heart-to-heart.

You see, there’s a massive gap between where you are and where you want to be—and that gap? It’s filled with your habits. Those sneaky little routines are either your ticket to success or the chains keeping you stuck.

Reality Check: Are Your Habits on Your Side?

Let’s hit pause for a second. A Duke University study found that 40% of what you do every day isn’t even a decision—it’s just your habits on autopilot. So if you’ve been waking up, pouring coffee, and diving into Instagram rabbit holes for an hour, don’t be surprised if your to-do list laughs at you by 10 a.m.

You can dream all you want about financial freedom, glowing health, and building an empire, but friend, if your habits aren’t working overtime, neither are you.

The dream isn’t the problem; it’s what you’re doing (or not doing) to make it happen.

Why Women Trip Over Their Own Feet

Let’s be real: we’ve got hurdles. Between juggling careers, families, and trying to find five minutes for self-care (hello, elusive bubble bath!), it can feel like the odds are stacked against us. In fact, LeanIn.org found that women are 24% less likely than men to get career-boosting advice from senior leaders. Oh, and let’s not forget that 43% of women experience burnout, according to Harvard Business Review.

But guess what? Burnout isn’t a life sentence, and neither is self-sabotage. Your habits can be the game-changer that flips the script from “I’m overwhelmed” to “I’ve got this.”

✨ 3 Power Moves to Make Your Habits Work For You ✨

Here’s the good news: you don’t need to toss your entire life in the trash and start over. Nope. We’re going to work smarter, not harder. It’s all about those tiny, daily adjustments that make a BIG difference. Ready? Let’s go!

1. Audit Your Current Habits (Don’t Be Scared)

I know, I know—the word audit sounds about as fun as a root canal, but stick with me. Awareness is everything. Take one week and track your habits—yes, every little thing.

The 10 minutes you spend doom-scrolling? Write it down.

The “quick nap” that turns into 2 hours? Jot it down.

Once you’ve got the goods, it’s time to ask some tough questions:

Which habits are dragging me toward my goals?
Which ones are dragging me backward, kicking, and screaming?

No judgment—just truth. We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.

"Success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out."
— Robert Collier, author

2. Swap It Like It’s Hot 😆

Let me hit you with some real talk: you can’t just stop a bad habit and call it a day. Habits are stubborn little gremlins. Instead of fighting them, swap ‘em out.

For example, instead of collapsing onto the couch right after work, swap that with a quick 15-minute walk outside. Feeling overwhelmed by emails? Replace that time with journaling to clear your mind before tackling your inbox. The trick is to replace the habit, not eliminate it.

✨MY PERSONAL MORNING HACK: I transfer the lists from head to paper. I use my planner daily and get the top moves for the day on paper before I open my laptop. Then, I isolate myself from distractions to lock in. You will most likely find me on DND between 8-10 am PST!

3. Get Yourself Some Accountability (Yes, Sisterhood Matters)

Let’s be honest—you’re more likely to show up for your friends than you are for yourself. So, why not use that to your advantage? Find an accountability partner who won’t let you off the hook when you’re tempted to flake out.

And here’s a stat for you: according to the American Society of Training and Development, people who have an accountability partner are 65% more likely to meet their goals. Add in regular check-ins and your chances shoot up to 95%.

That’s right—sisterhood is powerful! 💪🏽

The Price of Staying Stuck

Here’s where it gets deep. If you don’t change your habits, you’re choosing to stay exactly where you are. And let’s be real—staying the same is a whole lot more expensive than changing.

A Cornell University study found that 80% of people’s biggest regrets come from the things they didn’t do, not the things they did. So, when you think about the cost of not changing, remember: it’s not just about today’s missed opportunity. It’s about a lifetime of “what ifs.”

Let’s Get Down to Business: Here’s How You Start

I know you’re ready to flip the switch, so here’s the game plan. Don’t overthink it—just start small.

Choose ONE habit to tackle this week. (Nope, not 10. Just one.)
Commit to 21 days. Why? Science says it takes about 21 days to form a habit that sticks. You’ve got this.
Track it like your life depends on it—because it kind of does. Use a journal, an app, whatever works.
Phone a friend. No one climbs to the top alone. Make someone your accountability partner and set regular check-ins.

Your Hope Deserves a Habit

Here’s the bottom line: dreams don’t work unless you do. If your habits aren’t aligned with your hopes, then you’re living on hope alone—and hope without a plan is just wishful thinking.

So let’s kick those wishy-washy habits to the curb and start building the life you actually want to live.

As Oprah, once said, “The big secret in life is that there is no big secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you’re willing to work.”

It’s time to get to work. Your future is counting on you. Let me know what you think about this message. Reply to this email with a quick note or send it to welcome@thegreatgirlfriends.com.